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After hitting on a brilliant new life plan, our first instinct is to tell someone, but Derek Sivers says it’s better to keep goals secret. He presents research stretching as far back as the 1920′s to show why people who talk about their ambitions may be less likely to achieve them. Something to think about….
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I “get” what he is saying, and in theory there could be alot of truth to it. But then why is there so much hype in the last few years about acting and believing and living as if its already yours? Putting it out there, putting yourself out there. In order to make it a reality, people would be inclined to tell those close to them. Its tough to keep something so important to yourself-and not share it with others. Moreover, if you tell others this is what you are going to achieve, then you should hold yourself to it. You dont want to let yourself down, or them.
sorry for the delay, your comment was lost in the spam. There is a delicate balance between acting like you have it and what “he” is saying… that if you tell your friends what you are “doing,” it actually gives your mind the false sense of accomplishment. My feelings are to tell people what you are “working on” rather than what you are “doing,” Small shift in language, yet “working on it” means “IN progress.” When u are “in Progress,” your brain knows you still haven’t achieved it yet and keeps the drive alive. With all that being said… different things work for different people. Thanks for sharing. – Dan